Women Hold The Key...A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1 Love is awakened in a man by wholesome feminine qualities, such as sympathy, purity, cheerfulness, trust and dependence. First secret, accept him as he is. Look to his good side. When you try to change him, he becomes resentful and withdraws much of his love. Remember that you are far from perfect and you want others to accept you just the way that you are.